So you are getting hitched (or thinking you might) and you are wondering about questions to ask before getting married. That is an exceptional question to ask about questions! While there are many premarital questions that would be effective there are some that will help more.
WCCO Television, out of Minneapolis, MN, interviewed the originators of one of the premarital assessments we use. This assessment is the Prepare Inventory and it is incredibly effective in evaluating your relationship and you.
The people at Prepare say that you should discuss four specific questions:
1. Are you satisfied with your communication and conflict resolution styles? These styles, most likely, will be carried over into marriage. If your partner quiet now, he/she most likely will be after marriage as well.
2. Do you feel your personalities are compatible? Some annoying things about your partner will change after marriage, the majority will not. The good things, hopefully, will say good, but you should know if you can live with your partner…warts and all.
3. How do you both feel about finances? Money is a big issue in marriage, I am sure you have heard, so you must discuss your monetary thoughts and opinions. Does only one save and the other spend? Will you have a budget?
4. Do you have the same values, priorities, and goals? If you are not running the race toward the same destination your relationship and marriage is bound to have difficulty. Talk about what is important to you both. One good question to ask, concerning priorities, is what would we want others to think or say about us after we pass away. The answers might be some of your priorities.
So, when it comes to questions to ask before getting married, you now know at least four good ones.
Check out our other article with more premarital counseling questions
WCCO’s web page with this information:
http://wcco.com/local/marriage.engagement.questions.2.1000864.html
WCCO’s video talking about premarital assessments and the 4 questions:
http://www.wcco.com/video/?id=59663@wcco.dayport.com
Take a practice Prepare inventory:
https://www.prepare-enrich.com/webapp/pe_main/mainsite/training/template/DisplaySecureContent.vm;pc=1241106105390?id=pe_main_site_content*pages*couples*public*CouplesQuiz.html&xlat=Y&emb_org_id=0&emb_prp_id=0&emb_unq_id=0&emb_lng_code=ENGLISH
