Questions To Ask Before You Get Married

Special guest interviewee: Dr. Marty Tashman

(MP3 at bottom of this page)

In this MP3 interview you will learn questions to ask before you get married and hear the answers to these questions that can help your relationship right now!

Questions to ask before you get married #1
What are some of the best questions to ask my fiancé?

• Do you think we can make it?
• Are differences the problem?
• Do opposites attract?
• What is the key to know if either of us has what it takes to make our marriage work?

Questions to ask before you get married #2
How do I know if we can make our relationship/marriage work?

• What is the key to us getting along with each other?
• Is there a form of influence that is good in our relationship?
• What can my fiancé and I try to do to make our relationship work?
• What are some signs that my fiancé and I will try make our relationship work?
• What are some signs that my fiancé and I will respect each other’s opinion?

Questions to ask before you get married #3
Will my fiancé or I change after marriage?

• What can we examine to know if we will change?
• How will I know if my fiancé or I will be able to avoid one of the most common pitfalls of misunderstanding in our marriage?
• What can we do to make our married life as enjoyable as our dating life?
• What would be happening if we were married and suddenly one or both of us began to change?

Questions to ask before you get married #4
How do we know if we are ready for marriage?

• Does marital success have anything to do with our emotional or actual age?
• What is the key in knowing if my fiancé and I are ready for marriage?
• What is the suggested amount of time we should date before we might be ready for marriage?
• What do we need to have experienced within the time we have dated so that we know we are ready for marriage?
• How do we know if we will be able to be there for each other after marriage?

Questions to ask before you get married #5
Should we talk about our prior history or ex relationships?

• How do we know when to draw the line on certain past history subjects?
• Why do we want to ask certain personal questions, or is there a real reason for asking?
• What do we really mean when we ask, “Can you tell me about your past relationships?”
• When is our discussion of past relationships a problem?
• What should we receive from the other person when we talk to them about his/her past relationships?
• What we may really want to know when we ask each other about past sexual experiences?
• What should we be doing when it comes to talking about past relationships?
• What is the key when talking about our past?

Who is Dr. Marty Tashman?

Dr. Marty Tashman has been a therapist for over 30 years. He believes that combining compassion and common sense with formal training and experience is the most effective way to help a couple deals with challenges they are facing. Marty tells his clients that therapy should help change come about during the very first session. Of course, problems are not solved immediately, but every meeting should bring the couple to learning how to become closer to each other. He does not think relationships can always be “fixed”, but if both partners want things to work they have taken an important step towards being a couple.

Dr. Tashman holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology; he is a licensed Marriage Counselor, and a certified Social Worker. He holds a master’s degree in Counseling. He specializes in short term marriage counseling. Dr. Marty also works with couples where one partner is struggling with addiction. Dr. Tashman’s Marriage and Family Therapist License #37F100094000 and Social Work License #44SC00275900.

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Questions to ask before you get married #6
What should we discuss if I don’t exactly like your family?

What exactly should be done if the in-laws are not getting along with you, me, or us?
What strategy could we use to allow the families to get along with us better?
Should we set boundaries or limits with our in-laws?
What should we do if one of us is too connected with our families (for example – one is a momma’s boy or one is a daddy’s girl to the extreme)?
What should we NOT do when we have disagreements over our families?
What should we do when we have disagreements over our families?
Can we talk with our parents about our relationship problems?
What can be the danger in working out our problems with our parents?
What is the key to working out our own relationship problems?

Questions to ask before you get married #7
How do we resolve conflict in our relationship?

If marriage experts say 70% of all conflict has no solution, how in the world will our marriage survive (Studies by marriage and family expert, John Gottman)?
What is the key to working out conflict if we do not agree with each other?
Should we forget about an argument and just let it go?
What should we say to the other if we disagree?
What should we NOT do if we disagree?

Questions to ask before you get married #8
What final/other questions should we discuss to help us be ready for marriage?

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